Emotional Abuse Self-Reflection Quiz

This gentle self-reflection quiz is here to help you notice possible signs of emotional or psychological abuse in a relationship. It is completely anonymous, and there are no right or wrong answers—only your honest feelings and experiences. Emotional abuse is real, even when it leaves no visible marks, and your concerns deserve care and attention.

Ten Statements

The Quiz

Read each statement and reflect on whether it feels true or false based on your experience in your relationship.

  1. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting my partner.
  2. My partner frequently criticizes me, puts me down, or makes me feel stupid.
  3. I feel afraid to share my thoughts or opinions with my partner.
  4. My partner controls who I spend time with or monitors my activities.
  5. I often feel confused, second-guessed, or like my memory can’t be trusted.
  6. My partner makes me feel responsible for their emotions or reactions.
  7. I feel like I’ve lost my sense of self since being in this relationship.
  8. My partner dismisses my feelings or tells me I’m overreacting.
  9. I feel isolated from friends or family who care about me.
  10. I feel more anxious, sad, or unsure of myself than I did before this relationship.

If several of these statements feel true for you, you’re not alone — and recognizing these patterns is a powerful first step.

Understanding Your Results

This quiz is not a diagnosis and cannot capture your full story. It is simply a starting point to help you notice patterns that may be harming your well-being. Even one or two statements that feel true — particularly those relating to threats, controlling your movements or connections, or financial control — are worth taking very seriously. You do not have to wait for things to “get worse” before your discomfort or fear matters.

What You Can Do Next

Learn more about emotional abuse. Understanding the dynamics of emotional and psychological abuse can help you make sense of what you have been going through. You can start by visiting our Basics of Emotional Abuse page to read more in a gentle, straightforward way.

Talk to someone you trust. You do not have to carry this alone. Consider sharing some of what you are noticing with a trusted friend, family member, or support person who is likely to listen without judgment and respect your choices.

Reach out for professional or community support. A counselor, advocate, or support organization that understands relationship abuse can offer information, safety planning, and emotional support at your pace. You deserve help that feels respectful, kind, and centered on your needs.

Most of all, please remember: you deserve to be treated with care, honesty, and respect. Feeling confused, hurt, or unsure does not mean you are overreacting. Your experiences matter.

Crisis Note

If you ever feel that you or someone else is in immediate danger, your safety comes first. When it is safe to do so, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788 for confidential support. If you are in an emergency, please also consider calling your local emergency number.